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I haven’t seen my teenage daughter in three and a half months. This was my choice.  I sent her to live with her biological father because we were stuck in what seemed to be a broken and abusive dynamic, and I wanted it to change and I wanted to heal. For me, at this time, […]

Let’s talk about the Power of the Pussy. Girl power! Creators of life! Nurturers of the Universe! Formidable Forces of the World! Oh, there is nothing we can’t do!!! Except, maybe believe that narrative. Since, according to 2016, women seem to have trouble supporting a female president, let’s start looking at why. Yes, we may […]

I am developing curriculum for a class on intimacy and relationships and I tried out one of the pieces with my students at school this week. If I was going to talk about developing deep and rich friendships, I thought we first needed to unpack some of our baggage.  So I start my first lesson […]

For those of you who found your way here because you were looking for something different, I am sorry. But maybe stay with me anyway… There are many things you can say about Donald Trump. So, so many things. So many things it makes my head hurt. So many things I get dizzy thinking about […]

Two years ago I had a stroke and last week I had an episode where I lost consciousness, fell, and did some damage to myself upon landing.  I have lost consciousness and fallen about five times since the stroke, and have come very close to losing consciousness (but able to sit down and recover before […]

In 2014, I wrote a piece called Walk With Grace and Other Shit to Say to Your Kids.  It was a list of phrases my husband and I use in situations that can sometimes leave you frazzled.  My husband and I say these phrases because we have thought about them.  They reflect a message we […]

I am in grad school now and I love everything about it.  Well, almost everything… There is a part of academia that just really loves itself.  It loves creating a scholarly tribe where the price of admission is knowledge, and the unspoken wage is a feeling of superiority (over those who do not yet know). Of […]

In a world where women need to smile constantly, as a creepy little tax to simply live in the word, I have a daughter who is just not having it. This is my daughter Boo, as Dorothy, when she was 8. You know, kind of like a “Don’t Fuck With Me” Dorothy. She is not […]

This is Marianne. She just had a birthday, and now she is 50. And I love her. But I still have not called her. Why is that? A) I am a shitty friend. B) I want to do something special but couldn’t figure out what. C) I figured it out and was scared to commit. […]

RBF Resting. Bitch. Face. This is a real thing. It is not a particularly nice thing to say about someone – or really, even a thing that needs to be said at all. Seriously, why is this even a thing that is commented upon? It says resting right in the title – being concerned about […]