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I grew up in a tiny house that was always filled with people. I mean not an extreme tiny house where you build your home inside an old bus or a chimney or trash bin, but a home with small rooms and a kitchen – wait for it – without an island (gasp!). So, not […]

I haven’t seen my teenage daughter in three and a half months. This was my choice.  I sent her to live with her biological father because we were stuck in what seemed to be a broken and abusive dynamic, and I wanted it to change and I wanted to heal. For me, at this time, […]

Three years ago (perhaps not so coincidentally after the 2016 elections in the United States) my family decided on an international move.  The time was right as we felt our home country was becoming more hostile, more racist, and decidedly less like a place where we wanted our children to grow into adults. So, I […]

Marriages are not working. They are, for the most part, broken. Half of all marriages end in divorce.  Marriages need an expiration date.  I can only speak to marriages in the United States, because that is what I am familiar with. But, I can certainly speak to that. Now, I am not bragging or anything, […]

Let’s talk about the Power of the Pussy. Girl power! Creators of life! Nurturers of the Universe! Formidable Forces of the World! Oh, there is nothing we can’t do!!! Except, maybe believe that narrative. Since, according to 2016, women seem to have trouble supporting a female president, let’s start looking at why. Yes, we may […]

I am developing curriculum for a class on intimacy and relationships and I tried out one of the pieces with my students at school this week. If I was going to talk about developing deep and rich friendships, I thought we first needed to unpack some of our baggage.  So I start my first lesson […]

Sometimes it is hard to remember that you actually get to select the things you care about. There are a lot of causes to rally behind; a lot of traditions to follow; a lot of people who think “there is only one right way to do things” – and you are not obligated to care about […]

Somewhere in my early thirties I was having dinner with a friend I have had since Kindergarten and the topic turned to our evil junior high school Phys. Ed. teacher… Ms.Bickleman Oh yes, that was her name. I know it seems like Rohld Dahl or Charles Dickens made up that name, but I promise it […]

I have a cousin named Chickie.  Don’t judge.  When you have Irish and Italian families, everyone is named Mary or Maria and at some point, to disambiguate, you need to get funky with the names.  Anyhoo, I spent a lot of years really mad at Chickie.  Like almost 20. I spent almost 20 years angry […]

For those of you who found your way here because you were looking for something different, I am sorry. But maybe stay with me anyway… There are many things you can say about Donald Trump. So, so many things. So many things it makes my head hurt. So many things I get dizzy thinking about […]